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I am not any love guru who can define about love. But I can tell what love is for me. It is all about knowing all the flaws but yet still needing to be with him more than any other person. It is giving all the trust and confidence which makes it enough to tell him everything about my self not minding of what he will say particularly all the awfulness and awkwardness of me. It gives me the feeling of comfort and contentment even if it takes a lot of patience. And that’s exactly what i have for the the past 9 years…. and counting =D

We have celebrated 9 valentine’s day together and it always feels like the first time. The giggle is still intense and that heart-throbbing experience everytime I see him. The butterflies are still butterflies in my tummy and now they are like millions of them already that floods my whole body.

Always make your every date extra special than your previous coz it makes your partner feel more excited. Surprise him with your out of ordinary style when you go out. So for this valentine’s day 2012, you may want to give him a new experience from a new environment.

Like for now, we will just be holding our date online with all the difference in time zone. However, I will make it more fun if time permits. Love conquers all, so i will conquer the distance. =D

Happy Lover’s Day!! xoxo

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I can say that my relationship has so much success. Me and my partner have very different roles but we see ourselves as often equal. We always take each view’s highly valuable or won’t compete with our interest as more important than the other. Also, we always make it definite that we are making fundamental contribution to our relationship and must know where we stand. That’s how we deal with the dominance thingy.

It is flattering everytime my partner asks for my opinion(oh he really does..like frequently). I feel more valued more than anything else and it shows that he really believes and trusts my views. Well likewise, I do believe in him as well especially in rationalizing my impeccable judgments sometimes. He is my second best counselor next to my family.  That’s one of his roles, the counselor. And one of mine is his psychologist. Once he said that i am the pscyhologist of a psychologist-he is a psych grad so that’s why.

Making a joint decision on big issues will bring out all the creative solutions and you will learn how to compromise. Like for me, When we love to go somewhere, I always do the planning and he will intervene. Though sometimes he takes my role and I take his. I must admit that he is more creative than I am..~ sigh! So i make it to the point that i will just do the planning. hehe It’s like I am the compass and he is the captain. So basically, we are better together than being apart.

It feels so good when you know your role. You get to develop your strength that might be the weakness of your partner and vice versa. Just imagine how you both put back the missing puzzle in your lives and that being together completes the perfect picture. And that’s what we have right now. A complete movie picture!

 

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It is inevitable that somewhere at anytime in a relationship, we give less attention to it after having the strong commitment. We even tend to neglect each other while focusing on our personal duty or on our individual activities. But even if we have outside interests from our partners, a strong relationship will keep the both parties make their own commitment making each other on top priority list.

Honoring commitment starts with the acceptance of having a good relationship which takes a lot of work and effort. Expect to have bad situations along the road, it is so typical. As long as you are open for compromise and adjustment, it won’t ever make you vulnerable. The catch of every tough times is to accept the rough patches. Forget the thought of pretending it didn’t happen and it didn’t make any difference coz one day it will. Better yet give all what the two of you got to solve each problem together before the sun sets and tell him you love him regardless of all the annoyance.

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Which are you in favor? Same attracts or difference attracts?

Me and by beau don’t share same principles in life. I based mine on my experiences while his is on others’. He loves reading so most of his ideals are book-based. And we often make a beautiful argument because of our differences. It is like he is more idealistic and I am more practical. Though we aren’t much more the same, bluffing what we have for couple of years will just go nowhere.

He doesn’t like watching tv coz he believes it only gives pessimism which I don’t agree. I love watching TV series, while he don’t. He has a lot of unlike that I like. From thoughts, ideology, people, ways, etc. and I so hate it coz it seems he wouldn’t make an ally.

But rather than looking the downside of the variations, I must say that there is always a way when we want it badly to be ok. I cannot compete with what he loves to do but I can embrace with the totality of positive reception. I for once tried his ‘craziness’ and he has tried mine. There were some that pleased me but there are also that didn’t. The good thing is, I even appreciate him all the more with his cool crafts.

The edge of contrariety in attitude, character, or any interests might complement you with each other.  You will absolutely have fun acquainting what his world looks like and you get to learn stuffs that aren’t in your radar. Isn’t it pretty that you have a lot of things to talk and learn to? For us to understand more our partners, we have to at least be in their shoes for some time. I don’t think that there is any harm in trying. And to have a fair play, you can also let him wear your pump heels so that he can be more thoughtful next time. =D

 

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What makes a woman flatter is when their partner set dreams for her in their relationship. Like having babies with them, taking them into Paris for their honeymoon, building their dream house and so on. That really gives so many butterflies in women’s stomach. Isn’t it romantic? I think it really is. =D

My daily affirmation in my relationship is, “..i believe in us..”.  That’s one of the things I have a strong grip on. We may not have the luxury of time to be together (I work overseas by the way), or communicate every time I want to but having that self-declaration makes me feel relaxed regardless of the distance. If you are in same boat as I am, trust your relationship. If you can think of the challenges you and your partner had been through, I know you will get through your rocks. Remind yourself with your shared dreams with your partner. Make it as your strong motivation to live each day. Besides, even if you two are far from each other, you are taking a part of him or her with you and that’s LOVE. Just don’t mix up your emotions of wrong assumptions that most people do. You need to be strong not only for your other half but also for yourself and to those people who believe in your relationhsip. You might inspire them to be accountable in their relationship and must not rely to their partner alone.. Love is a two-process, as we say.

So, what’s your affirmation?

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How far have you gone in your relationship?

We women need a man who can see through us and understand our needs. We generally need a man who always give us surprises, presents,, out-of-town trips attention, time, appreciation, respect and…jewelries?hahaha..take out the latter. Even other women shamelessly demand for those, but the question here is.. How much have you given him for you to deserve your demands?

In my relationship, i am not the one who pulls out the effort but i demand a lot..i know it’s unfair. But I have learned how rude it is, and I’m here to share my insights. ~wink~

Remember the golden rule? “do unto others what you want others do unto you”.

Start with yourself. Give more and the universe will fill your bucket.So simply give your partner what you want and it will return to you eventually.  But don’t expect too much that it will return to you very identical. Perhaps it may be in astonishing form like more on what you have anticipated. =D  But I am sure it will return to you with the same emotions.

If you demand for quality time, give him that first.  He may not respond with that need of yours however I am sure it’s worth the wait. Wanna receive more emails from him? Send him thousands, who knows he will send you millions. Need him to understand you? Understand him first that he also has his personal errands to run.  In doubt of trusting him? Trust your feelings and have faith in both you. Although, don’t expect something coz they say it won’t come to you if you expect. But rather, expect the unexpected..=D

God didn’t meet up your path and his for just a coincidence. You are in a relationship with him right now because both of you are meant to be together. So go for that extra mile.

Love and don’t ask why as there is no need for a reason in loving someone.

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