Posts Tagged ‘embracing differences’

Remembering the first few months with him is gratifying. It is still in my nerves all the giggles of our small talks with all the ‘knowing more each other’ stage. Everything was so innocent and new with him around and all our first time’s are just so lovely to feel them again and again. We were so young then that we were only thinking of exchanging sms and talking late in the phone ( like i really mean when the roaster calls).  Our first few days, weeks, months and years made us last this long which i can fairly say strong.. and is getting even stronger and will be getting even better and better. That’s how i believe in us.

Like in any other long distance relationship, i have my struggles. It cannot be denied that sometimes we can think of unacceptable decision like getting even with our partners if they have done wrong that have hurt us. I too sometimes think of that, but i chose not to as it isn’t the true sense of fair play. But what i do instead is that i engage myself in going back our memories, both the happy and the not quiet happy… I can really attest to the fact that the amount of happiness and laughter can certainly kill a deadly wound. A popular thought of counting the happiness than the pain is indeed very effective to smear our clouded thoughts and judgments from being hurt.  Once it is stained with the great memories, certainly you will feel more delighted to be in your relationship if it is worth the stay. Every time i feel down not hearing anything from him, i only think of how we met, the first time we held hands, the first time we prayed, the first time we ate in a fancy restaurant, and so on. The butterflies in my tummy are more reactive as i get myself to visit our past.

They say leave the past behind. But i think, GREAT PAST is not worth the LEAVING.


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I am not any love guru who can define about love. But I can tell what love is for me. It is all about knowing all the flaws but yet still needing to be with him more than any other person. It is giving all the trust and confidence which makes it enough to tell him everything about my self not minding of what he will say particularly all the awfulness and awkwardness of me. It gives me the feeling of comfort and contentment even if it takes a lot of patience. And that’s exactly what i have for the the past 9 years…. and counting =D

We have celebrated 9 valentine’s day together and it always feels like the first time. The giggle is still intense and that heart-throbbing experience everytime I see him. The butterflies are still butterflies in my tummy and now they are like millions of them already that floods my whole body.

Always make your every date extra special than your previous coz it makes your partner feel more excited. Surprise him with your out of ordinary style when you go out. So for this valentine’s day 2012, you may want to give him a new experience from a new environment.

Like for now, we will just be holding our date online with all the difference in time zone. However, I will make it more fun if time permits. Love conquers all, so i will conquer the distance. =D

Happy Lover’s Day!! xoxo

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Which are you in favor? Same attracts or difference attracts?

Me and by beau don’t share same principles in life. I based mine on my experiences while his is on others’. He loves reading so most of his ideals are book-based. And we often make a beautiful argument because of our differences. It is like he is more idealistic and I am more practical. Though we aren’t much more the same, bluffing what we have for couple of years will just go nowhere.

He doesn’t like watching tv coz he believes it only gives pessimism which I don’t agree. I love watching TV series, while he don’t. He has a lot of unlike that I like. From thoughts, ideology, people, ways, etc. and I so hate it coz it seems he wouldn’t make an ally.

But rather than looking the downside of the variations, I must say that there is always a way when we want it badly to be ok. I cannot compete with what he loves to do but I can embrace with the totality of positive reception. I for once tried his ‘craziness’ and he has tried mine. There were some that pleased me but there are also that didn’t. The good thing is, I even appreciate him all the more with his cool crafts.

The edge of contrariety in attitude, character, or any interests might complement you with each other.  You will absolutely have fun acquainting what his world looks like and you get to learn stuffs that aren’t in your radar. Isn’t it pretty that you have a lot of things to talk and learn to? For us to understand more our partners, we have to at least be in their shoes for some time. I don’t think that there is any harm in trying. And to have a fair play, you can also let him wear your pump heels so that he can be more thoughtful next time. =D


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Don’t get addictive to your partner. I have known a lot of relationships ended because they thought they have more pain and despair rather than love. Many have asked me how I survived for many years without doubting any uncertainties that arise in my relationship. Oh well, basically it depends on how you see the connection between you and the relationship per say.

When you love, it should be aiding and not killing you. It should not be painful to the point that you feel like it is crushing more your excruciating heart and slaughtering  your sanity coz if that’s so, then there must be something wrong. =(

It’s totally normal to want a relationship to last, but to assume isn’t fair. Because the more you expect, the more it will get noxious. And, there would be a probability that you will forget your own goals  ‘coz you will keep on whining about your frustrations.

I always take myself as my priority coz everything I do is a reflection of what I will have. And, I never considered being obsessed with my relationship.  I don’t wanna be infatuated for the reason that I don’t want to merely depend on my partner. But it doesn’t mean I don’t talk to him about stuffs like what should he do, but it’s more on I will do my thing and it’s up to you to do yours. But If there’s anything that upsets me which needs to be talked about, I tell him. Here’s what I believe to be helpful . (spare me if you don’t agree.~wink)

Sometimes being alone is fun rather than clinging with each other 24/7. It will give you time to grow as a being and not just a lover. Sooner you will learn that your morale doesn’t depend to your partner. Never ever expect for your partner to fix your mood if you don’t want to get hurt more.

Respect each other’s interests. It’s okay to be get involved with his stuffs sometimes but if it isn’t gives you comfort, then recognize them. Don’t restrict him with his social life or interests. I for all time support him with what he does. I always tell him to reconnect with his old friends and have fun always.  My job here is just to remind him that, “hey, I think you need a break”. He is a one hell workaholic type of person. And it’s a bit annoying sometimes. =)

We often tease each other’s physical imperfections but with no offense. Though he is a bit big,like literally big, I embrace his individuality. It is always up to him or it is always up to our partners if they will change their own image. Don’t be the one to change them according you or own ideal image.

In every disagreement, always talk and compromise. Let the love do the talking and you will surpass any argument. That’s the most powerful weapon in killing fights. Be real and deal all the aspects that you think is a threat to your relationship. Don’t be deluded with the fact that avoiding the unpleasant will make you feel better. It’s a BIG NO NO! It is best to let him know than repressing it. Quarrels get extreme because of unresolved conflicts and issues that have not been dealt with from the past. So better yet resolve it right away.

Always give each other a room to grow. Always desire continuous growth for you and your partner. You will just be surprised that one day, you two are the most amazing couple in the whole universe. =D Encourage each other to for each other’s worth. Don’t fear of change, just see it as an opportunity for the better.

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