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Often times when we are intimately in love, we tend to forget who we really are. Sometimes others get to loose their self because of giving everything they have for their partner. But that shouldn’t be the case. Being in love is sweet and refreshing. But if you feel like it is toxic and is already stressful, even if you have loved that person for quite a long time, you still need to make a firm decision if you really want to continue in that relationship. You must choose to be ALIVE outside that hurting life you are having with your partner. If he can’t be totally honest, if he keeps on admiring and longing someone else while he is in your relationship with you, cut it off. Make the decision or you will be sorry.

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Well it’s just that sometimes, you have to convince yourself that you made the right choice and make it appear like it is ok. 

Now, i am living on an edge and kinda wrapped up with the the unknown direction and now i’m kinda lost with myself. 

Good thing is that i have someone who can give me the company. =D

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When we were kids, we are fond of dreaming. Dreams that were sometimes too bold or extravagant. But as we grow older, our dreams change into something that defines who we really. But there are also some of them that doesn’t become ours. But to our environment instead.

Our childhood dreams are unique, and so as our partner’s. For 12 years, i was bombarded to be this someone with flying colors, working in big industries with high paying jobs. Unfortunately, i lived in those dreams. Well to cut the story short, i went into a room of challenge where i need to choose whether my career or my partner.

My contract abroad ended and here i am in my homeland, Philippines. It’s been almost 5 months since i have arrived. And in those 5 mos i was unstable with where to go next.

But at this moment, i made the choice. Well my spirit had chosen already months ago. It’s just that my consciousness  has able to recognize where my spirit leads me. I chose the latter and gave up to be the perfect nurse of all humanity but even if i gave up on something that became my everyday life,there is no trace of any kind of regret. In fact, my dreams became broader and clearer. And now, these are humongous that make me leap everytime i visualize them.

What’s funny is that, my dreams are the missing puzzle of my partner’s bigger dreams. AMAZING!

I realized that, no sacrifice has forsaken. We just have to trust, wait and believe. Amen!

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Abundance Prayer

When I am afraid, I ask myself:
How can i give more to life?
When I am tangled in past regrets or
frightening stories of the future,
I bring myself into the present moment
And know that I am safe.
When i am tempted to complain
I choose praise and gratitude.
i take a deep breath.
I look around and see
How rich I am in the things that count.
I look within and see my unlimited potential
I realize that every moment is filled
with blessings
and every day I am alive
is a gift to be grateful for.
I remember that God is my Source
and abundance is reflected
in the faces of those
I have yet to learn to love.
eternally, this abundance says:
Every family is my family.
Every success is my success.
Every bride is my beauty
and every bridegroom my Beloved.
Every child is my new beginning
and every elder is my life ripe with experience.
Every dawn is my new day.
Every sunset is my world turning.
Every season is good
and offers its bounty to me
Every moment is mine to embrace
for it is the Eternal Now
forever expressing in, through, and for me.
I live in the Forever Here
that is alive in all.
Translucent grace shines in us,
awake and aware of the beauty we are
as we become all we were meant to be.
And so it is.

For it is in the giving we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
It is in dying to self that we are born to
eternal life.

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi..

I took this part from the book i read, ” The Heart of Abundance”. Such a beautiful book that will make you feel spiritually full while reading every page. 

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He said,

“10 YEARS? HOW DID YOU DO IT?

For most people it seems to be so unbelievable! A total joke! A myth or a freak of nature.

But friends, believe it or not, we have been together – in a relationship – if there was Facebook 10 years ago.

Now the next big question how did we do it?

The “how” also came about not just after 2 years, nor 5 or 8 years, but also a decade.

Relationships didn’t come with a manual. And the academic me – structured and systematized – was having quite a difficult time understanding everything. What to do, how to do it, why such happens, and why not. Especially with women – understanding them is like being a 3 year old learning quantum physics by himself.

Generally, my main expectation before was simply that everything will go well in 5 years. (I’m sure you already know about the 5 year myth?) Going well meaning, you understand each other, less fights, and everything is just on the roll. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen.

There was still a lot of work to do! As in a lot!

Looking at memory lane, I realized this one truth. It’s a loooooooooooooooooong process.

People often tend to look at relationships as sprints. In their very first year they pump out everything they have – which is good – but bad if it dies down after that. Relationships are not like projects, start with objectives then finish in a few months. No, they are long – not sprints but marathons.

Relationships are marathons.

Long endurance marathon.

When I finally accepted this fact, that I will never get the ideal smooth relationship in just 5 years, I became more at ease.

So when we fail or stumble – we stand up – we still have a long way to go.

When things don’t go as we expected or go as we would have wanted – we stand still – we still have a long way to go.

Like marathons, it needs consistency, and of course, it needs to be enjoyed. Enjoyed every step of the way – we still have a long way to go.”

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Sometimes I overlook the meaning of true love as I did try to seek it by character. But what I have come to realize is, it’s what you can do and what you have done to that person you truly love to make your relationship a truly loving one. Love never fails and it will never fail us. I only have one romantic relationship in my whole life but I fell in love million times and will fall again and again with the same person. I may not have the perfect relationship but God sent me the perfect person who showed me how to love an imperfect me. True love doesn’t go on the good looks and wealth of the person. It is how you feel when you are with him. It is also not all about the emotion, but most importantly how it is shown to you. As what we have known, action speaks louder than voice. When you love, just show it and let him feel. You will also feel it more than you have projected it.

For me, he is the most handsome guy and the most lovable person in my entire existence. Even if he has a lot, I mean tons of shortcomings, I never considered those as reasons to leave him nor cheat him. Even if how mad I am, even if he have crushed my heart so many times, it never crossed my mind to look for another boyfriend. That’s how I truly love him. I am patient with his mistakes though I have thrown nasty words on him but he also didn’t bother to make it a reason to doubt on me.  He is my kinda guy. =D Like any other relationships, we also had few attempts of breaking up, but  we always end up being together. That’s true love,it perseveres unconditionally.

If you want to ask what’s true love for me, well it believes in the word of God on love, be completely honest with each other, understanding the level of commitment truthfully, protecting each other sincerely, have faith and never doubt your hopes and most importantly, trust your relationship.

Certainly true love isn’t easy but,it will always worth all your fight. Once we find that true love, it can never be replaced by anything even the most expensive diamond ring.

 

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I can say that my relationship has so much success. Me and my partner have very different roles but we see ourselves as often equal. We always take each view’s highly valuable or won’t compete with our interest as more important than the other. Also, we always make it definite that we are making fundamental contribution to our relationship and must know where we stand. That’s how we deal with the dominance thingy.

It is flattering everytime my partner asks for my opinion(oh he really does..like frequently). I feel more valued more than anything else and it shows that he really believes and trusts my views. Well likewise, I do believe in him as well especially in rationalizing my impeccable judgments sometimes. He is my second best counselor next to my family.  That’s one of his roles, the counselor. And one of mine is his psychologist. Once he said that i am the pscyhologist of a psychologist-he is a psych grad so that’s why.

Making a joint decision on big issues will bring out all the creative solutions and you will learn how to compromise. Like for me, When we love to go somewhere, I always do the planning and he will intervene. Though sometimes he takes my role and I take his. I must admit that he is more creative than I am..~ sigh! So i make it to the point that i will just do the planning. hehe It’s like I am the compass and he is the captain. So basically, we are better together than being apart.

It feels so good when you know your role. You get to develop your strength that might be the weakness of your partner and vice versa. Just imagine how you both put back the missing puzzle in your lives and that being together completes the perfect picture. And that’s what we have right now. A complete movie picture!

 

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