Posts Tagged ‘resolving conflicts’

It is inevitable that somewhere at anytime in a relationship, we give less attention to it after having the strong commitment. We even tend to neglect each other while focusing on our personal duty or on our individual activities. But even if we have outside interests from our partners, a strong relationship will keep the both parties make their own commitment making each other on top priority list.

Honoring commitment starts with the acceptance of having a good relationship which takes a lot of work and effort. Expect to have bad situations along the road, it is so typical. As long as you are open for compromise and adjustment, it won’t ever make you vulnerable. The catch of every tough times is to accept the rough patches. Forget the thought of pretending it didn’t happen and it didn’t make any difference coz one day it will. Better yet give all what the two of you got to solve each problem together before the sun sets and tell him you love him regardless of all the annoyance.


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Don’t get addictive to your partner. I have known a lot of relationships ended because they thought they have more pain and despair rather than love. Many have asked me how I survived for many years without doubting any uncertainties that arise in my relationship. Oh well, basically it depends on how you see the connection between you and the relationship per say.

When you love, it should be aiding and not killing you. It should not be painful to the point that you feel like it is crushing more your excruciating heart and slaughtering  your sanity coz if that’s so, then there must be something wrong. =(

It’s totally normal to want a relationship to last, but to assume isn’t fair. Because the more you expect, the more it will get noxious. And, there would be a probability that you will forget your own goals  ‘coz you will keep on whining about your frustrations.

I always take myself as my priority coz everything I do is a reflection of what I will have. And, I never considered being obsessed with my relationship.  I don’t wanna be infatuated for the reason that I don’t want to merely depend on my partner. But it doesn’t mean I don’t talk to him about stuffs like what should he do, but it’s more on I will do my thing and it’s up to you to do yours. But If there’s anything that upsets me which needs to be talked about, I tell him. Here’s what I believe to be helpful . (spare me if you don’t agree.~wink)

Sometimes being alone is fun rather than clinging with each other 24/7. It will give you time to grow as a being and not just a lover. Sooner you will learn that your morale doesn’t depend to your partner. Never ever expect for your partner to fix your mood if you don’t want to get hurt more.

Respect each other’s interests. It’s okay to be get involved with his stuffs sometimes but if it isn’t gives you comfort, then recognize them. Don’t restrict him with his social life or interests. I for all time support him with what he does. I always tell him to reconnect with his old friends and have fun always.  My job here is just to remind him that, “hey, I think you need a break”. He is a one hell workaholic type of person. And it’s a bit annoying sometimes. =)

We often tease each other’s physical imperfections but with no offense. Though he is a bit big,like literally big, I embrace his individuality. It is always up to him or it is always up to our partners if they will change their own image. Don’t be the one to change them according you or own ideal image.

In every disagreement, always talk and compromise. Let the love do the talking and you will surpass any argument. That’s the most powerful weapon in killing fights. Be real and deal all the aspects that you think is a threat to your relationship. Don’t be deluded with the fact that avoiding the unpleasant will make you feel better. It’s a BIG NO NO! It is best to let him know than repressing it. Quarrels get extreme because of unresolved conflicts and issues that have not been dealt with from the past. So better yet resolve it right away.

Always give each other a room to grow. Always desire continuous growth for you and your partner. You will just be surprised that one day, you two are the most amazing couple in the whole universe. =D Encourage each other to for each other’s worth. Don’t fear of change, just see it as an opportunity for the better.

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