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Sometimes I overlook the meaning of true love as I did try to seek it by character. But what I have come to realize is, it’s what you can do and what you have done to that person you truly love to make your relationship a truly loving one. Love never fails and it will never fail us. I only have one romantic relationship in my whole life but I fell in love million times and will fall again and again with the same person. I may not have the perfect relationship but God sent me the perfect person who showed me how to love an imperfect me. True love doesn’t go on the good looks and wealth of the person. It is how you feel when you are with him. It is also not all about the emotion, but most importantly how it is shown to you. As what we have known, action speaks louder than voice. When you love, just show it and let him feel. You will also feel it more than you have projected it.

For me, he is the most handsome guy and the most lovable person in my entire existence. Even if he has a lot, I mean tons of shortcomings, I never considered those as reasons to leave him nor cheat him. Even if how mad I am, even if he have crushed my heart so many times, it never crossed my mind to look for another boyfriend. That’s how I truly love him. I am patient with his mistakes though I have thrown nasty words on him but he also didn’t bother to make it a reason to doubt on me.  He is my kinda guy. =D Like any other relationships, we also had few attempts of breaking up, but  we always end up being together. That’s true love,it perseveres unconditionally.

If you want to ask what’s true love for me, well it believes in the word of God on love, be completely honest with each other, understanding the level of commitment truthfully, protecting each other sincerely, have faith and never doubt your hopes and most importantly, trust your relationship.

Certainly true love isn’t easy but,it will always worth all your fight. Once we find that true love, it can never be replaced by anything even the most expensive diamond ring.

 

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Remembering the first few months with him is gratifying. It is still in my nerves all the giggles of our small talks with all the ‘knowing more each other’ stage. Everything was so innocent and new with him around and all our first time’s are just so lovely to feel them again and again. We were so young then that we were only thinking of exchanging sms and talking late in the phone ( like i really mean when the roaster calls).  Our first few days, weeks, months and years made us last this long which i can fairly say strong.. and is getting even stronger and will be getting even better and better. That’s how i believe in us.

Like in any other long distance relationship, i have my struggles. It cannot be denied that sometimes we can think of unacceptable decision like getting even with our partners if they have done wrong that have hurt us. I too sometimes think of that, but i chose not to as it isn’t the true sense of fair play. But what i do instead is that i engage myself in going back our memories, both the happy and the not quiet happy… I can really attest to the fact that the amount of happiness and laughter can certainly kill a deadly wound. A popular thought of counting the happiness than the pain is indeed very effective to smear our clouded thoughts and judgments from being hurt.  Once it is stained with the great memories, certainly you will feel more delighted to be in your relationship if it is worth the stay. Every time i feel down not hearing anything from him, i only think of how we met, the first time we held hands, the first time we prayed, the first time we ate in a fancy restaurant, and so on. The butterflies in my tummy are more reactive as i get myself to visit our past.

They say leave the past behind. But i think, GREAT PAST is not worth the LEAVING.

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Which are you in favor? Same attracts or difference attracts?

Me and by beau don’t share same principles in life. I based mine on my experiences while his is on others’. He loves reading so most of his ideals are book-based. And we often make a beautiful argument because of our differences. It is like he is more idealistic and I am more practical. Though we aren’t much more the same, bluffing what we have for couple of years will just go nowhere.

He doesn’t like watching tv coz he believes it only gives pessimism which I don’t agree. I love watching TV series, while he don’t. He has a lot of unlike that I like. From thoughts, ideology, people, ways, etc. and I so hate it coz it seems he wouldn’t make an ally.

But rather than looking the downside of the variations, I must say that there is always a way when we want it badly to be ok. I cannot compete with what he loves to do but I can embrace with the totality of positive reception. I for once tried his ‘craziness’ and he has tried mine. There were some that pleased me but there are also that didn’t. The good thing is, I even appreciate him all the more with his cool crafts.

The edge of contrariety in attitude, character, or any interests might complement you with each other.  You will absolutely have fun acquainting what his world looks like and you get to learn stuffs that aren’t in your radar. Isn’t it pretty that you have a lot of things to talk and learn to? For us to understand more our partners, we have to at least be in their shoes for some time. I don’t think that there is any harm in trying. And to have a fair play, you can also let him wear your pump heels so that he can be more thoughtful next time. =D

 

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Intimate relationship isn’t all about romantic dates, romantic talks, romantic gestures or so. It is how you relate and understand the feelings of your partner. Well for me, being passionate in a relationship comes with tight friendship. Or i think i’ll call it PASSIONATE-COMPANIONATE LOVE. ~wink~

One ground for having a long lasting relationship is the foundation of friendship. It is best to be more than just a girlfriend. Aside from the connection that you and your boyfriend has, it is always helpful to have a different connection,which is being BESTFRIENDS. Being his bestfriend means you have the surge of desire what is best for your lover. Be more on emotional support because it will serve as your starting point.

Whenever he has errands to run for the day and you feel like he is panicking or somewhat in rush, don’t add up with his stress. At this time, he needs your care and understanding. Don’t nag as he won’t be able to bring you out for dinner or whatsoever. If he really is serious with you, he will catch up as soon as he can. (that’s what my guy  friend told me, serious boyfriends always have the thought of “catching up with my girlfriend” in the midst of his busy day).  Or perhaps leave him a note to fire up your partner rather than leaving depressing messages on his voicemail. Be like more than a friend to him, sure thing he will appreciate it more and certainly wouldn’t ask for more. When you think that he needs time for himself without you being around, give him the time. Understand that they also have needs that we can’t provide. Listen to his frustrations and hurtings, but don’t judge. If he is watching his favorite cricket team, shout with him. For as long as you are aware of what he is up to and that it won’t bring harm nor destruction to your relationship then be with him as a friend.

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How far have you gone in your relationship?

We women need a man who can see through us and understand our needs. We generally need a man who always give us surprises, presents,, out-of-town trips attention, time, appreciation, respect and…jewelries?hahaha..take out the latter. Even other women shamelessly demand for those, but the question here is.. How much have you given him for you to deserve your demands?

In my relationship, i am not the one who pulls out the effort but i demand a lot..i know it’s unfair. But I have learned how rude it is, and I’m here to share my insights. ~wink~

Remember the golden rule? “do unto others what you want others do unto you”.

Start with yourself. Give more and the universe will fill your bucket.So simply give your partner what you want and it will return to you eventually.  But don’t expect too much that it will return to you very identical. Perhaps it may be in astonishing form like more on what you have anticipated. =D  But I am sure it will return to you with the same emotions.

If you demand for quality time, give him that first.  He may not respond with that need of yours however I am sure it’s worth the wait. Wanna receive more emails from him? Send him thousands, who knows he will send you millions. Need him to understand you? Understand him first that he also has his personal errands to run.  In doubt of trusting him? Trust your feelings and have faith in both you. Although, don’t expect something coz they say it won’t come to you if you expect. But rather, expect the unexpected..=D

God didn’t meet up your path and his for just a coincidence. You are in a relationship with him right now because both of you are meant to be together. So go for that extra mile.

Love and don’t ask why as there is no need for a reason in loving someone.

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No relationship is perfect. No one can also tell how long your relationship lasts or how soon it will end. But though, it is us who have the choice.  What we all need is the broadest mind and kindest heart. But you can make it your IDEAL RELATIONSHIP.

I am not perfect,neither are you. We are bound to fall into our own mistakes. Most of the time, we are easily fired up with the heat of argument with our partners without even thinking where it will lead. Don’t be dragged by your pride that you wanted to put the blame on him/her . We are at often instance fogged up by so much anger that we fail to make out the reality wherein there is no one to blame.It is just another opportunity for the both of you to grow though. And that’s one of the greatest things i learn in love. ~wink~

By definition,love is a virtue. The most unselfish emotion one can ever feel and experience. A lot of relationship fail to see this during in their commitment (unless the aren’t serious and were just playing around). If you love, you must learn to LOVE the fact of imperfection in every person. We must not expect and must not change our partner  into someone we wanted them to be. If you get to LEARN TO LOVE his/her mistakes, if you will LEARN TO LOVE the fact that like us-they are also capable of wrongdoings- you might be able to see every misunderstanding as an opportunity for growth.

99% of break-ups happened when two are arguing.. Most of the time, a simple argument gets complicated. Most women habitually serve previous argument into plate like summoning up previous fault of their partner. Yes I admit that sometimes I am like that. But I am now reprogramming my attitude not to. So you shouldn’t as well.

If you really want to have the best love story ever told in history, you shouldn’t provoke your partner for a break-up. Never decide during the heat of the argument. Think before you speak coz sometimes, it is better not to speak up than regret it later on. As they say, “if you don’t have good thing to say, then don’t say anything”.  Take time to breath and think. Be smart in dealing with difficult situation.  Don’t forget that it is always better to talk and compromise.  He has the whole thing that you stayed long as his or her partner, so don’t risk everything just because of unreasonable fight .

Men may not be expressive as women. Savor the moment when he say I LOVE YOU out from an ordinary day. Don’t question his feelings. They don’t like it. Just continue to love. Even if he has hurt you, just love him. He might be upset now but it would surely be off the next moment. LOVE is everything when you feel like there is nothing. Love more. =D

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